Un-Circling™

You are not blocked because something is wrong with you.

What feels like a block is often the visible expression of an outdated survival process, one that is still trying to protect you from dangers that no longer exist.

In my understanding, these processes were never meant to harm you. Your system created them long ago to keep you safe. Because they are outdated, they can be brought to a close, allowing you to move forward.

Each outdated survival process influences your behaviour, actions, internal dialogue, decision-making, emotional reactions, and may even manifest as physical symptoms. You experience these effects as limitations or problems.

Un-Circling™ doesn't try to fix you. Trying to fix a part of yourself is another way of rejecting it, and that rejection is what built the pattern in the first place. So nothing in the process is forced, and every part you meet is approached with compassion.

How Survival Processes Form

The primary function of your brain and nervous system is simple: to keep you safe and ensure your survival.

In early childhood, we depend entirely on our caregivers. Our system learns quickly that acceptance means safety and rejection feels like danger, and it adapts.

Here is a simple example. Imagine you are a child whose parent regularly reacts negatively whenever you express what you want. Your system notices that wanting leads to rejection. To protect you, your system begins building an internal process that gradually stops you from wanting.

This happens layer by layer. The first layer may be confusion. The next may be fear. Then perhaps a sadness you learn to hide so as not to upset the parent again. Over time you no longer want anything.

You may even become proud of yourself for having no desires.

None of this is anyone's fault. Parents have their own history, and children adapt in whatever way keeps them safest.

How It Shows Up In Adult Life

Years on, someone asks what you want and you genuinely don't know. You may feel uncomfortable around people who say what they want freely. You may even believe that wanting nothing is somehow more mature or more spiritual.

The survival process uses everything it has to keep things familiar: beliefs, inner dialogue, habits, emotions and behaviours. You may be successful and still feel that your goals don't quite belong to you.

Why It Blocks Your Progress

When you are disconnected from your genuine desires, you move through life without a natural drive to expand.

You may be highly successful in your profession yet still feel deeply unfulfilled.

You may wonder what your purpose is, why achieving your goals requires so much effort or why you never feel completely satisfied.

You are very likely pursuing achievements that are not aligned with your true self.

When An Outdated Survival Process Ends

Returning to our example:

Once the internal process that made you disconnect from your desires naturally completes, something begins to change.

You notice yourself wanting things again. Small things at first. Then bigger ones.

You discover that expressing your wishes does not necessarily lead to rejection. In fact, it can strengthen relationships and create opportunities for everyone involved.

You begin dreaming again. You start making different decisions. You feel more connected to your purpose.

Progress in that area of your life is no longer blocked.

The same principle applies to every outdated survival process.

Once your system fully understands that a process created for survival in the past is no longer necessary for survival in the present, it can complete organically.

You end the process not against yourself, but for yourself.

What Un-Circling™ Does

Un-Circling™ helps outdated survival processes come to a natural completion.

Imagine every survival process as layers of protective resistance around a younger part of you that became stuck in the past with an unresolved emotion or an authentic expression that was rejected by someone important.

In an Un-Circling™ session we work through those layers one at a time, and then reach the younger part they were protecting. When that part feels understood and its needs are met, it can rejoin you, and the energy that was used to keep the layers in place becomes available to you again.

As a result, you naturally stop being controlled by a survival process that has long since stopped serving you.

This is my model, built from my own inner work. It is not a proven scientific theory, and it shares ground with other approaches that work with parts of the self.

The Un-Circling™ Process

  • 1. Identification Session

    During this session we:

    • identify the survival process behind the situation where you feel blocked
    • connect with the version of you that is already free from that block
    • determine together whether you are genuinely ready for the Un-Circling™ Process

  • 2. Un-Circling™ Session

    We work directly with the survival process you experience as limiting.

    The process is brought to completion.

    The length of the session depends entirely on the process itself.

    The session ends only when Un-Circling has fully completed.

  • 3. Next Chapter Session

    Together we anchor the changes that have occurred since your Un-Circling™ Session.

    You will:

    • identify the concrete changes you've already noticed
    • receive supporting materials to help you apply the Un-Circling™ Process independently should you wish to work with a different survival process in the future

The Un-Circling™ Session

Sessions take place on Zoom, last between one and four hours, and you sit upright with your neck and head free to move.

  1. You begin by sitting comfortably with your eyes closed and saying an invitation aloud to the part of you linked to what you want to change.
  2. As you do, you notice the expression your face settles into. In my experience, each expression marks one layer of protection.
  3. We explore each layer and when your face becomes neutral, you are drawn to the younger part the layers were protecting. You spend time with that part, understanding it and meeting its needs, until it feels ready to rejoin you.

What you may notice: the facial expression settling, a gentle pull in the facial muscles, your head moving in slow circles, or a deep spontaneous breath. In my experience, the intensity ranges from very subtle to quite strong, and both are normal. Some layers are quiet, others bring strong feeling, and the younger part you meet may offer to show you the moment the first layer were formed.

Staying safe. You can pause at any time for a few minutes of grounding with my guidance, usually slow breathing, and then we continue. Because stopping halfway can leave the original issue unresolved, I stay with you until the process reaches its natural completion. Each session ends with grounding, so that you leave feeling settled.

If you want to stop, or the connection drops

You are always free to decide. If you want to end the process before it reaches completion, it is possible, but I don't recommend it, because in my experience it leaves the original issue unresolved, and it is your decision and responsibility. If you choose it, I will help you leave the process and ground yourself, and I stay with you until you feel settled.

If the connection drops, we reconnect and resume: you ask the energy of the part to come back, and in my experience the process continues where it stopped. If the video fails, I phone you so we can reconnect quickly.

Who Is This For?

People who:

  • genuinely feel ready for change
  • understand that lasting change begins within
  • seek resolution rather than lifelong management
  • trust their inner intelligence
  • want a process that works in harmony with themselves rather than against themselves

Who Is This Not For?

Un-Circling™ is not suitable for:

  • People under 18
  • Pregnant women, because Un-Circling™ can bring significant inner shifts
  • People in acute crisis or having thoughts of harming themselves
  • People with severe dissociation or psychosis
  • People currently struggling with an eating disorder or substance dependence, unless they are in treatment and their treating professional agrees
  • Anyone looking for a replacement for medical, psychological or psychiatric care

Un-Circling™ is not therapy. If you are in therapy, please carry on with it and tell me.

Investment

The price £630 includes the complete Un-Circling™ Process:

  • Identification Session
  • Un-Circling™ Session
  • Next Chapter Session

  • The Identification session is £150. If either of us decides after it not to continue, the unused part of your payment is refunded.
  • Cancellation or rescheduling: by email, with at least 24 hours' notice (London time)
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